Is it too much to ask…

…to be allowed to be independent, hard-working, ambitious, passionate, and still a feminine, somewhat girly, kind-hearted woman?

Can I be allowed to think for myself, make decisions about my career and my education, be assertive and professional, set ridiculously high academic goals, and yet still nurture the old-fashioned dream of experiencing pregnancy and raising my own family (with two functional parents!), cooking and taking care of my own house, and growing a garden?

I guess it is too much to ask. Because I don’t fit into a box, people don’t know what to do with me. I just don’t make sense! I’m a Christian, a music major, wickedly sarcastic, a bit too tall but not tall enough to be the attractive kind of tall, slightly rebellious and yet still ridiculously old-fashioned with high ideals, pretty darn goofy, becoming more and more cynical and even a little potty-mouthed as college knocks the stuffing right outta me… yikes. What a mess. I mean, I don’t even know what to do with me.

Apparently I’m not “dateable,” because I am not in the game (whatever the heck “the game” is). Well fine then! I don’t really have enough hours in the day as it is, and I’m not willing to devote emotional energy to a romantic relationship unless it’s really worth it. Sorry.

(Also I’m scarred from my own family and past relationships and you could say I’m bitter and mostly really just scared and I have no idea how to be asked out on a date or how to ask someone out on a date so I just act like a dude all like chill and “what’s up bro” and then people start to wonder if I’m lesbian and then my life gets even more complicated and then I think to myself I’m going to open up a convent for scared, feminist, female composers……………….)

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I’m not “wife material” (and that’s degrading!) because I am too stubborn, too loud, apparently not all nice and lovely and wifey anymore, and I didn’t come to college to find a husband and I will not drop out of college to get married and have kids. Imagine that.

Well, that about crosses me off of everyone’s lists. Oh bother. Guess I’ll just keep going like I have been for the last two years. Blissfully free, independent, and dealing with all my emotions: love and joy and grief and actual depression. Figuring out who I am. Because all I seem to have learned so far is that the older I get, the less I know.

Here’s to life, bruh.

~Meg

A Quest.

I am on a quest.

I see myself picking up the proverbial shepherd’s crook, slinging a sack over my shoulders, and headed for the mountains. I imagine that the roads are dusty, covered in strange and sharp rocks, wolves lurking in the forest, and water is scarce. To make it more real, imagine me in a burlap sack with a large, floppy hat over my tangled hair, worn out sandals on my feet.

This is my quest to find the Church.

Not a building, not a group of smiling people, not an organized religion. Not a room full of judgmental hypocrites. Not a gathering of blind followers who will hit you over the head with the Bible if you have questions. Not a hipster or rad college ministry. Not people who cannot understand living with pain and clinical depression because it is uncomfortable to talk about. Not people who will jump to make you a casserole but are scared away if your sin is showing too much.

I’m looking for the Body of Christ. And I’ve come to believe, it’s everywhere. It is not confined to a building. It isn’t for two hours on a Sunday morning. It isn’t a convenient set of guidelines. It is made up of real, living, breathing, human, people. It has been around for more than 2,000 years. It is a flawed family. It is not under the guidance of any man or woman, but of the loving God who redeemed it and cares for it.

I don’t know where this quest is going to take me, because I have so many questions and I don’t know where to even begin. But I am okay with that. I’m okay with looking. I’m actually okay with not knowing right now. With being vulnerable and unsure. I am angry. I don’t want to be angry anymore. I want peace, but that doesn’t mean being comfortable. I want joy, but it doesn’t mean being happy. I’m going to exert my free will and the intellect we were all created with and set out for the mountains, or the valley, or the sea, or wherever it takes me. It’s going to be gloriously hard.

I don’t know when or what I will have to say, but I imagine I will keep writing more over the next few months. I know it has been a while since I even looked at this blog. I have been too bitter and life has been far too full of everything. I’m tired of living like that. I want to be honest again. I’m ready to learn and grow and hopefully, even if it takes years, get past that. I want to regain the tenderness without losing the tenacity.

If you’re with me, let me know.

Love,
~Meg

Reasons Why I Love Doctor Who.

In honor of the new season premiering tonight: some of my American friends just don’t understand.

1. Because bow ties are cool.
2. Because tea.
3. Because Matt Smith.

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4. Because of good triumphing over evil.
5. Because of wibbly-wobbly, timey-wimey stuff.
6. Because fish sticks and custard.
7. Because imagination.
8. Because the Tardis (translated: sexy.)

The Tardis.

The Tardis.

9. Because I live vicariously through his companions. Why don’t I qualify for an intergalactical trip before tea time?
10. Because Rory literally waited for his Amy for 2,000 years. Please.
11. Because the Doctor fixes things. Like marriages and the universe.
12. Because River Song.
13. Because the Impossible Girl.
14. Run, you clever boy.
15. Hello, sweetie.

Peter Capaldi, I believe in you. You won’t let us down.

Cheapening the Story

Over the weekend I went to see the new Hercules movie. I didn’t know what to expect as I hadn’t seen any trailers or promotion, and the only thing I knew coming in was that Dwayne Johnson played the hero. I’m a fan of Greek mythology, having been a student of classical literature all throughout highschool. Plus, I’ve seen the Disney version; and we all know that any movie with a musical number has the final word in my book.

(Just kidding. Kinda.)

Honestly…I was disappointed. Granted, there was some sheer entertainment value, and Dwayne Johnson sure doesn’t hurt to look at; but I was left so unsatisfied. The entire premise of the legend of Hercules is based off the fact that he was a demigod: born of Zeus and a mortal woman. It was his god-like qualities that gave him his enormous strength and brought him such great fame. But this modern Hollywood version implied multiple times that he wasn’t actually a demigod, but a mercenary who worked with five others (including a badass Amazonian warrior chick). And that ultimately, his reason for success was that he believed in himself, and that is what made him (and everyone else, the movie informs us), a true hero.

Blah blah blah.

The reason this is unsatisfying as a movie and as a story in general, is because that’s all we get from Hollywood these days. Believe in yourself. Follow your heart. Have faith. In… yourself. Its the age of the anti-hero. And not to say that I don’t appreciate all the stories where someone ordinary or someone facing difficult challenges rises to the occasion and becomes a hero, but now it seems we can’t even have a regular ol’ hero anymore.

Can’t we just retell a Greek legend as it is? It would have been just as awesome if he was, you know, a legit demigod.

But if I’m being totally honest, the issue that is bugging me here is an issue entirely separate from Hercules itself. It’s the fact that we have to tamper with and add our modern nuances to old stories that have stood the test of time. We keep re-writing fairy tales, and changing them around to tell a story that won’t offend anyone. Everything has to be modified: get rid of anything that smacks even slightly of gender issues, religion, race, morality, etc. It cheapens the quality of the story.

Rather than tampering with old legends and stories, why don’t you go write your own. If you want the girl to be the true hero, go write a new fairytale (and I’ll probably read/watch it, because I like that sort of stuff). If you want someone to follow their heart into oblivion, fine. To each his own. Personally, if I’m going to watch an old Greek legend turned into what could have been an awesome action movie, I’d like to see just that. And not some poor 21st century spin on an ancient world most of us can’t even perceive anymore.

Stop messing up good stuff. It’s like sticking your finger in the icing of a perfectly frosted cake. It’s just rude.

Story of Us: Love

Everyone has a story. Followers of Jesus have a unique one…ours is a story of faith, light, grace, beauty, love. All working together for redemption, which is God’s goal for humanity. Not a story of happiness and easiness, or apathy and America, but of world-wide joy in the middle of the terrible pain we face in a broken world. The most important to me is the story of love.

Without love, all is lost. If God hadn’t chosen to love a people who rejected him, and did everything we could to not deserve his love, we would still be without hope. Jesus was of course the ultimate example: and he told us that this is love, to lay down one’s own life for a friend.

But who is my friend? Who is my neighbor? Am I willing to lay down my life…
Because laying down my life doesn’t have to mean dying the death of a martyr. Laying down my life in love is a much simpler, but far more difficult process of choosing to humble myself every day. To that one person who drives you nuts, the lady at church whose gossiping makes you cringe, the person who cut in front of you on the road, and that grumpy man at the store who ruined your day. And even worse for today’s falsely religious “Christian”; to the gothic girl who cuts herself, the pregnant teenager, or the gay man in your class. But in God’s eyes you are no better than any of the human beings that you consider somehow beneath you. We are all equal before him and equally loved. There is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, man nor woman.

I, however, am so often guilty of a subtle and dangerous hypocrisy…much like the smug Pharisee who prayed “Thank you God, that I’m not like that person.” This is a destructive way to go about living and brings no benefit to the kingdom of God. And all-too-many churches these days are guilty of the same thing. So concerned with going to battle over doctrine or rejoicing in the fact that “we’re not like them…” that we forget the reason we came.

To quote Sarah Bessey (from Jesus Feminist, pg. 105)–

“No formula, no method makes me feel so fully human and alive as the radical act of living loved. Once you taste Love, you are ruined for the empty shells of religious performance and conditions, like going back to fast food after a home-cooked meal.”

Our deeds and words are hollow if not infused with love, and particularly this love that is stronger than we are capable of mustering as mere humans. And “living loved,” as Bessey puts it, means more than just loving on others; it means living with the confidence and assurance that we ourselves have been loved and adopted into the family.

At the end of the day; either I loved my neighbor or I didn’t. God loves me regardless, and I don’t have to do good deeds to earn that…but if I’m being a good steward of what he’s giving me, then it should matter how I choose to go about my day, and whether or not I do it in his name. And he is Love.

Love,
~Meg

Only the Beginning of the Adventure

I’m sitting on a plane in Dallas, about to depart for Chicago before my final destination of Watertown, NY.

My hair is flat, a travesty for a woman currently of the Southwest. My eyes are dark because I haven’t slept in a while. I am anything but glamorous. But I’m on my way to begin something that has been growing silently for the last 5 years…my first album.

I probably shouldn’t make any comparisons to being pregnant because I am all-too familiar with the process of pregnancy and birth and all that it entails…but seriously guys, I sort of feel like I’m about to give birth to a baby that I’ve been growing for like 50 months. With no clue what this will look like or where it’s going to leave me in another five years from now…I am all anticipation and excitement, nerves and stomach pain.

I have to step back from the whole thing and say that it was not of me or any power I had. It was handed to me bit by bit from someone who had this all planned a long time ago. Every song tells a story, is a part of me that I had to learn the hard way. The way of pain and bleeding hearts and inexplicable joy. To share this music is to know that it will resonate with people because it already has, in overwhelming ways: but it comes with the knowledge that I too will be shared and exposed because little bits of me are in every verse and melody. To be blunt, it’s like getting naked in public. Musically speaking. But it’s a privilege.

This is more than I ever dreamed of. Even if only 20 people buy the album, it will still be worth it. Because I will know that I did what I was supposed to do with what I have been given. It’s part of a bigger story.

Off I go. Step 1. Or more like, Step 1000. He knows.

Love,
~Meg